Saturday, May 15, 2010

The Decision

"Lord help me, please," I begged, as I opened my Bible, "We have to find a way out soon, and Bruce isn't in any condition to make decisions.  I desperately need an answer. Could you please give me something from your word?"

 We had floundered along ignoring God's call for long enough.  (see God Leads us Along Part 1 and Part 2 ) We knew we needed to find His direction, but Bruce was an emotional wreck.  (this often happens when you fight God's plan for your life)

Our accountant had introduced us to something called a consumer credit proposal where your creditors agree to take a percentage of what you owe for a number of years and then you are free and clear.

It worked for us but meant that we still had Grey Bruce Art World, and this was a problem.  We tried selling our art supplies to a local stationary store that sold some supplies, but they would only give us six cents on the dollar wholesale.  We said "no."   I was heavily burdened about what to do and was praying and asking God for the direction we needed. 

I was sure the Lord had an answer for us.  He had already shown that He was there to help when we turned it over to Him, so I believed He would direct us now. I picked up my Bible.  I have always been able to hear from the Lord by reading from his word.  It often seems like the passage I read is a direct answer to the questions I am asking, like he has directed me to where He has already provided the answer.

So I opened my Bible and started reading.  But all I read was a verse about wives being in subjection to their husbands. "Lord, this is no help to me now," I prayed, "My husband is in no condition to make decisions.  He's a wreck!"

I flipped over to find something else to read, but again I met with the same theme: Wives be in subjection to your husbands. I didn't want to take it, it didn't make sense, so again I flipped over and tried another place.  Could you believe it? There was another passage about a wives submitting.  I never realized there was so much in the Bible on that one subject.
"OK, Lord," I finally conceded.  "I don't understand, but I know you are trying to tell me something here."

The next morning, as we were waiting for business at Grey Bruce Art World, Bruce asked me what I thought we should do.  I was ready.  "What every you decide, Honey." I answered.

"No! Don't give me that."  At this point he really did not want any kind of responsibility, so he asked again, and I gave him the same answer.  He started getting mad.  "Just tell me what to do; you know you won't be happy with any decision I make.  You'll say, 'we should have done --' so you may as well make the decision."

"Honey," I said as calmly as I could, "that is my decision.  I have decided to trust you as leader of the family."

He stomped out the door but then suddenly turned around and came back in.  He spoke with authority.  "Here's what we are going to do," he said.  "We're going to notify all the artists and tell them that all the art supplies are going on sale for 50% off for the next month, and then we're going to pack it all up and close the business.  We'll find a place to live in Chatham, (he had been asked by a pastor there to come and help him) and then we'll go to the Christian camp ground in Alabama for three weeks to rest and seek God."

This was a side of my husband I hadn't seen in a long time.  He was sure of himself.  He knew that he was being directed by God.  I felt a huge weight lift off me, a weight I should never have been carrying in the first place.

A few hours later, after he had a chance to do some of his own thinking, he began suggesting that maybe we could set up the framing part of the business in Chatham.  I was tempted to argue, but instead, I bit my tongue and said, "whatever you say."  I had to remember to let God do the leading.

On the first day of the sale one of our regular artist customers came in and said, "What am I going to do for framing now? You wouldn't consider selling all your framing equipment, would you?"  That was the end of the framing business plans for Bruce.  If the Lord had gone to the trouble of making the framing equipment his first sale, who was he to argue.

And so the month went.  With sales like we had never seen, three times better than our best month, this was our first month of being blessed by being in God's will!

And it only got better.  Read the next post, The Cottage for more examples of God's love.


  1. Thank you for sharing this, Carol. It's amazing how many women think the command to submit is conditioned upon our husband's ability to lead-- but no such conditions are granted by Scripture.

    As one who finds it easy to grab the reigns and take the lead, I have often been convicted in this area; and can testify to the unexpected blessing found in submission.

  2. It is a hard one for me, too, and I am constantly having to remind myself of the lessons that I should have learned long ago. God does bless when I obey his word!

  3. This is a good direction for God for me to really think about. I believe I let my husband lead the household, but is worth praying over to make sure! Please email on THL again when you've added the next "chapter!"